From blowing the budget to having “too many cooks in the kitchen,” there are quite a few wedding planning pitfalls that can turn one of the most wonderful times of your life into a stressful nightmare. Not to worry! The best way to avoid these pitfalls is to first know what they are.
Let’s take a look at six common and disastrous mistakes brides and grooms make when planning their special day – and how to avoid them, of course!
Not planning out and tracking your budget
This is one of the first pieces of advice anyone should give you when it comes to wedding planning and that is to outline a realistic budget and have a system in place to easily track and organize all of your spending. Both the big and the small expenses add up, and those small expenses are the sneaky add-ons that are often the culprit over overspending if you’re not careful.
To avoid this pitfall, use any of the wedding planning tools from websites like www.theknot.com or www.weddingwire.com. They also offer some really handy phone apps to keep you tracking while you’re on the go. Commit to keeping track of all of your expenses – and to sticking to your budget. If you go over in one area, look for a way to cutback and save in a different area.
Waiting too long to book key vendors
Another pitfall couples so often experience when wedding planning is waiting too long to book their preferred wedding vendors. This includes venues, caterers, salons, event rentals and florists to name a few.
Once you’ve selected your wedding date, you need these vendors to be available on this very specific day. To avoid this potential pitfall, be prepared to make decisions quickly! If you find a vendor that is available and the one you want to work with, make it official with a contract! Waiting even a few days could cost you your “Dream Team” so don’t delay!
Losing control of the planning process
Even the most well-meaning helpful hands can add stress and confusion to the wedding planning process if you aren’t careful about remaining the one that is in control. It’s your wedding day and those volunteering to help should always defer to your ideas and decisions.
To avoid this pitfall, keep your “wedding planning” team limited to only a few trusted and talented individuals who share your vision and respect your role in the process. Family and friends are a natural (and free) choice, but keep in mind a professional wedding planner can bring an unbiased, third-party perspective that is very valuable.
Trying to keep up with the Jones’
By now you have likely been to quite a few other weddings for family and friends. For so many reasons, these weddings will never be like yours. Sure, you may gather some inspiration, but it’s a big pitfall to try and compare another wedding to your wedding.
Budget, location, length of planning, vendors and vision will all be drastically different. You will never be able to compare apples-to-apples and in attempting to do so, you will only cause frustration. Forget about every other wedding you’ve been to and focus solely on your own dream wedding. The celebration is fun, but the person you’re marrying is what it’s all about. This is one detail you’ve already gotten right; the rest is icing on the cake!
Getting talked into things you don’t really like or need
Talk to any bride who has been through the wedding planning process and she will likely tell you that there was at least one detail she felt pushed into that was an unnecessary expense or something she really didn’t like. Family, friends and vendors try their best to present you with ideas that match your vision, but you must remain your own advocate.
To avoid this pitfall, make sure you are in touch with exactly what you want. Your wedding colors, theme, décor and budget will all guide you toward the best decisions. If someone offers an idea that doesn’t align with any of these things, kindly decline or ask for an alternative. For example, a florist is rightfully passionate about flowers, but if you would prefer minimal flowers – or no flowers at all – don’t feel like you need to go with the over-the-top package to avoid hurting their feelings. Speak up early and often!
Letting it become more work than it is fun
The final and biggest wedding planning pitfall is allowing the process to become more work than it is fun. Yes, the countless decisions and budget balancing do require a degree of work, but the majority of your memories should be happy ones. Every detail you select will be part of the most special day of your life. So embrace every decision, indulge in a little too many wedding cake samples and smile through those DIY crafts. Your wedding day is the end cap on this beautiful journey – and the beginning of an even better one!
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